The 4 Most Important Things To Look For When Finding A Therapist

Trust

At the end of the day, evidence shows that the “therapeutic relationship” is the single most important factor in determining how successful mental health counseling will be. Trust is a fundamental aspect of any therapeutic relationship. When you trust your therapist, you feel comfortable opening up and sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Trust allows you to be vulnerable and allows your therapist to understand you better. It also helps create a safe and non-judgmental space where you can explore your emotions and work towards personal growth. Trust is built over time through consistent and reliable interactions with your therapist. It's important to find a therapist who is trustworthy, empathetic, and respectful, as these qualities contribute to building a strong therapeutic alliance.

So date around a little. Finding a therapist is like finding a partner; it needs to be the right fit. What are you looking for in a therapist? Do you want someone who will validate your feelings? Or would you rather someone who will not be afraid to challenge you? Or both? 

Do you trust your therapist? Are you comfortable with their informed consent process? What can you expect from them in terms of confidentiality? Do you feel like they trust you? Do you trust them?

It's also important to remember that trust is a two-way street. It's not just about trusting your therapist, but also about feeling that your therapist trusts and respects you. A therapist who values your autonomy and collaborates with you in the therapeutic process can help foster a sense of trust and partnership.

Ultimately, trust is something that develops over time. It's important to give yourself the space and opportunity to build trust with your therapist. If you find that you're not developing a sense of trust or connection with your therapist, it may be worth considering finding a different therapist who better meets your needs.

Compatibility 

Compatibility with your therapist is an important factor in the therapeutic process. It refers to how well you and your therapist work together and understand each other. Compatibility can involve factors such as communication style, personality, and values. When you have good compatibility with your therapist, it can enhance the therapeutic relationship and make the therapy more effective. It's important to find a therapist who you feel comfortable with and who you believe understands and respects your needs and goals.

Connection

It's important to feel comfortable and at ease with your therapist, as this will allow you to open up and share your thoughts and feelings more freely. Look for a therapist who is empathetic, understanding, and non-judgmental. Additionally, consider their communication style and whether it aligns with your preferences. Some people prefer a more direct and solution-focused approach, while others may prefer a more gentle and reflective style. Ultimately, finding a therapist with whom you feel a genuine connection can greatly enhance the effectiveness of your therapy sessions. 

Convenience

Oftentimes we attend therapy when our life feels out of control. As a therapist that focuses on overwhelm, this is especially true for my clients. This is why it is important to find a therapist that is convenient for you to see; whether in person or via telehealth. Do they have availability in their schedule to see you as often as you wish to be seen? Is their location nearby your commute or home? Do their available appointment times line up with when you are typically free?